By KELLIE KAMRYN
We’ve all heard the expression, “Be the change you want to see in the world.”
Often, I hear people lament about how they wish the world would change, or if this person would change things would be better, or how they cannot stand this person or that one. Years ago, I admit to doing the same thing, wondering and hoping that if only the world would change, it would be a much better place.
There are many people in the world. I am one of them. So are you. If each of us examined our own behaviour and released false beliefs about ourselves, then the world would change. But how do we go about doing that?
The following is one technique suggested to me by visionary artist and mystic healer, Darlene Drewniak. She is an amazing facilitator dedicated to one’s soul awakening. You can contact her about personal healing sessions as well as workshops at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Stop and breathe.
When you hold onto a belief, you are putting out a particular energy into the world. Believing everyone needs to change but you is an example. If someone’s behaviour triggers you in a negative way by annoying you or causing you to feel anger, pause for a moment and use this situation as a mirror. By stopping to consciously breathe, you are choosing to step out of the chaos caused by the situation at hand. You are checking in with yourself in order to discover what is causing the reaction within you.
Drop down into your heart.
Once you have checked in with your breathing, leave the outside world behind. Cut out the external conflict, such as people and situations, which leaves only yourself. Now, take some time to ask yourself questions. Have you had this reaction to a similar situation before? If so, trace it back to the earliest time you have felt this particular emotion.
Roll around with your emotions.
What emotion are you feeling? Anger often masks sadness or grief. Examine what happened at the earliest time you recall feeling this way in a similar situation. Why do you believe you have to feel this emotion in this situation? How often do you feel like this when you are triggered in this way?
By employing this technique, you are giving yourself space to decide on a course of action rather than reacting out of habit. Have you discovered a belief that urges you to act this way? Are you willing to let go of a belief you’ve held onto for a long time? When we are able to let go of beliefs that we need to act in a certain way in certain situations, then we are able to move more fully into ourselves and begin communicating not only with ourselves, but with others more authentically. We choose how we want to react rather than doing so out of anger or habit. It doesn’t mean we let people walk all over us or anything like that. It means we check in and make a conscious choice about how we want to deal with a situation. We don’t have to feel guilty or bad that we didn’t know what we were holding onto. The point is that now that we are aware of it, we can take conscious steps to change it. It will take practice, but the outside world gives us lots of chances to practice! Vigilance toward your own behaviour changes our inner world which goes a long way to changing what happens in the outside world.
We can change the world by changing how we react to what happens around us. Now, imagine if every person in the world did the same thing. Wouldn’t it be amazing if everyone in the entire world managed their own behaviour in such a way? The world would indeed change! So, the next time you find yourself wishing other people would change to make the world a better place, ask yourself what you can change to make it happen.
© Kellie Kamryn, 2017 www.kelliekamryn.com
Kellie Kamryn is an award-winning erotic romance writer and voice actor, as well as former columnist for Evolved World. Her articles receive a wide reception on her personal website and elsewhere for her commitment to keeping it real, and helping people get in touch with their inner truth by sharing her personal experiences. Kellie loves to hear from readers, so if you have an experience to share, please comment!